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Post by kaleidoscope_tree on Sept 24, 2007 9:45:53 GMT
I know this is random but... this is the random chat so i suppose its ok.
There are at least 3 members who are married. And I was reading for school last year a lot of stories written by females all about how marriage is bad, the wife is trapped, the man rules her and all that, excuze my language, crap. So I was wondering, what's it like to be married from a guy's point of view?
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Clarabella
I'll Be On My Way
All she needs is the stars up above
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Post by Clarabella on Sept 24, 2007 9:50:16 GMT
Who are the merry, I mean, married men?
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Post by kaleidoscope_tree on Sept 24, 2007 9:57:24 GMT
on the forum? Bobber, Blue meanie and pc31...
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pc31
What Goes On In Your Heart
all we see or seem is but a dream within a dream.
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Post by pc31 on Sept 24, 2007 11:08:08 GMT
i am happy.......they say a man isn't done till he is married then he is FINISHED!!!
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Post by The End on Sept 24, 2007 11:29:09 GMT
Me!
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Post by Bobber on Sept 24, 2007 11:31:10 GMT
I'm not married. Just going steady for eight years now. She isn't trapped. I am!
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Post by The End on Sept 24, 2007 11:37:27 GMT
I'm not married. Just going steady for eight years now. She isn't trapped. I am! Sinner!!!
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pc31
What Goes On In Your Heart
all we see or seem is but a dream within a dream.
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Post by pc31 on Sept 24, 2007 11:37:36 GMT
i noticed alan is first and last on the members list...lol also noticed you and al have red staff...does that hurt???
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BlueMeanie
For A Number Of Things
I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together
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Post by BlueMeanie on Sept 24, 2007 11:43:08 GMT
on the forum? Bobber, Blue meanie and pc31... I'm afraid I live in sin. Married twice, divorced once. The last one took the house, the car, and the dog! Not to mention the credit cards, most of my friends, and my sanity. Oh, and split my family down the middle! Nice girl!!
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Post by The End on Sept 24, 2007 11:58:12 GMT
noticed you and al have red staff...does that hurt??? Yes, and there is no known cure!!
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Post by somedude210 on Sept 24, 2007 19:31:16 GMT
on the forum? Bobber, Blue meanie and pc31... I'm afraid I live in sin. Married twice, divorced once. The last one took the house, the car, and the dog! Not to mention the credit cards, most of my friends, and my sanity. Oh, and split my family down the middle! Nice girl!! that sounds like my girlfriends mother....which is why im dating her daughter
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Post by kaleidoscope_tree on Sept 24, 2007 23:41:20 GMT
I'm afraid I live in sin. Married twice, divorced once. The last one took the house, the car, and the dog! Not to mention the credit cards, most of my friends, and my sanity. Oh, and split my family down the middle! Nice girl!! Wouldn't that put you off marriage, though? A friend of mine told me that he used to date this girl, got her pregnant and left her. The thing is, marriage and all that, wouldn't you get tired of your lover? So cheating, or call it having an affair, would be sort of inevitable. So when people say "I want to share my life with you forever" or "I want you for the rest of my life" thats not really true, is it?
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Post by Bobber on Sept 25, 2007 7:41:57 GMT
Exactly. That's why I'm not getting married. You make a promise, but are you really sure you can keep it? Of course, you can get tired of each other without being married. Maybe you should look at marriage as being a 'love you at this moment and I want to tell everybody' kind of thing. Plus, over here, it is very handy to be married when you're having kids. I'm not married and have three children: I had to sort out all kinds of paperwork to convince the local administration that I really am the father! But the marriage as an institute? I don't believe in it.
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Post by kaleidoscope_tree on Sept 25, 2007 22:35:01 GMT
Not wishing to pry too much into your personal life, Bobber, but are you steady for eight years with the mother of your children?
Thinking rather pessimistically and quite ahead of me, what's the point of starting a relationship if you know you wont be fully commited anyway... You could look at marriage as you said Bobber- but then you sort of think of I Me Mine...
You made me think about parents and kids, Bobber- Man, I'll be a horrible mother! I really dont like kids. They cause you 9 months of pain, they dont give you sleep, they drain your income, suddenly your whole world evolves arounds them, and you start baisically a whole new life. But to what purpose?
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Post by Bobber on Sept 26, 2007 13:06:50 GMT
1. Yes. 2. You can be fully committed and try to stick to eachother. On the other hand, realise it's endable. 3. Sure, kids can be terrible. But that feeling fades away immediately when you hold that baby in your arms. And when you get their first smile. Kids are honest and make you think (and learn!) about yourself. Kids are alright.
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joost
What Goes On In Your Heart
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Post by joost on Sept 26, 2007 14:23:11 GMT
I grew up in an environment of good marriages. As a kid I didn't even know anybody who had ever been divorced. My parents are happily married for almost 35 years now and almost all of their brothers and sisters (12 in total) are in long and (for as far as I can tell) happy marriages. So I see marriage as a good thing.
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BlueMeanie
For A Number Of Things
I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together
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Post by BlueMeanie on Sept 26, 2007 22:06:57 GMT
I'm afraid I live in sin. Married twice, divorced once. The last one took the house, the car, and the dog! Not to mention the credit cards, most of my friends, and my sanity. Oh, and split my family down the middle! Nice girl!! Wouldn't that put you off marriage, though? A friend of mine told me that he used to date this girl, got her pregnant and left her. The thing is, marriage and all that, wouldn't you get tired of your lover? So cheating, or call it having an affair, would be sort of inevitable. So when people say "I want to share my life with you forever" or "I want you for the rest of my life" thats not really true, is it? Well that's why I'm not married now. I met Mrs. BM (Tina) ten years ago, this is the longest I've ever been with anyone. And we happily live in sin. I have no plans to marry again; I don't see the point. Been there, done that. We're very happy not being married. From my experience I can only see bad things about being married again.
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Post by kaleidoscope_tree on Sept 26, 2007 23:37:18 GMT
I suppose I'll have a different pov when the time comes... Thanks for your comments everyone!
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tkitna
I'll Be On My Way
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Post by tkitna on Sept 28, 2007 5:01:24 GMT
I'm married and I enjoy it. I suppose i'd feel the same way towards my wife if we werent, but its a comfortable feeling. I did go 8 years without marrying her though until I knocked her up. No reason, just waited.
I can see how a divorce can be the worst feeling ever though. Like I said, I feel comfortable with my marriage and because I trust my wife totally. If a person had that kind of trust and found out that their partner was cheating or something on those lines that led to a divorce,,,,,I couldnt even imagine. Hope I never have to either.
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